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A while ago my girl found some online directions for making rope floggers. Cool stuff actually, it wasn't a material I would have expected to use for that. Since I have my own love of rope this seemed double great for me.
We went to Totem and spent about $20 on supplies. Finding the rope wasn't any trouble (braided cotton), but it took forever to finally locate the solid rings that had been recommended. We ended up finding them and probably bought ones that are a bit too large, but it was better to have too big rather than too small. I think everything was less than $20, so definitely a good deal.
Put together they actually looked pretty cool. I know I expressed my reservations about the knotted ends when I saw them, since I'm the one that actually throws the flogger I know how it ends up landing. Much of the 'thwack' comes from the ends, especially when you're working high on the back near the shoulders, or on the bottom directly from behind. She assured me that this was how the directions had explained things.
Well the other day I decided that a good flogging was in order - I'm sure you know how that goes, sometimes you are just in the mood for it. Since these new rope floggers are all we currently have it was time to break them in.
I decided to start with the heavier rope, the lighter looked like it would be stingier and better for use later on. I'd practiced a bit with these so I knew what to expect throwing them. I landed a few (what I considered) light blows and she was already yelling. I could tell from the sound that the knots were landing quite harshly on her skin. This wasn't really the kind of sensation I wanted to start off with.
I continued working with it, giving liberal breaks. Her skin started to redden in small little dotted patches, which really proved what was causing the impact on her skin. During this first process she was quite wiggly and I could tell it wasn't all 'fun' for her. Finally when I had properly leathered her skin she seemed to relax and enjoy it. At that point I assume the sensation must have changed to something more comfortable and the 'thuddy' impact was more enjoyable.
I also found a good use for the tufted ends of the rope flogger, they'd frayed to a point where they felt like small cotton balls, which made her shiver nicely when I worked them across her red skin.
I tried to 'spank' her with the flogger as well, but it wasn't well suited for that. The tips are too heavy with the knots to snap properly. Using it across her bottom worked but again the knots landed more solidly, so to get an even sensation I would have to keep changing sides I was beating her from.
I broke out the smaller flogger about half way through. It was more easily controlled, but even light strokes with it caused her to jump and cry out. I didn't try to push it too far since she'd had a hard enough time warming up to begin with. I'll break it out again for a full try another day when I have something else to warm her up with.
During the use I found that it performed well. It flew and stayed together until it landed and splayed. I managed to get a good rhythm going in multiple permutations. Having the rings at the end was actually a nice benefit for some situations.
I'm not sure how the handles were created exactly but the woven grips worked wonderfully to keep it from slipping. It was also solid enough to give me the control I needed to properly throw it. Overall it was a fantastic project, and I'm quite happy that she found it and took the initiative.
A few months back, I found directions online for constructing rope floggers. They were pretty simple, really; Buy a ring and a length of rope, cut the rope into 5-foot sections, double it over through the rings, knot the ends and wrap a twine handle round the top.
Cotton on top, Cotton-poly blend on the bottom.
I can do that, I thought. It was off to Totem I went, to procure a couple of different types of rope. I chose a thinner, tightly woven cotton and a thicker, "meatier" poly-cotton blend. The rings were a bit more trouble to find. I couldn't imagine where they'd be located, but they were in the section of little drawers that have all the different types of nuts and bolts. They come in a multitude of sizes, and I think I went a little bit too generous on the sizes, but I wasn't sure exactly how tightly the rope would compress within the rings, this being my first time making them, so decided safe was better than sorry.
All in all, the supplies for both floggers cost me well under $20, including the twine I already had at home from previous projects. Inexpensive, and they didn't take too much time to complete either. The handles were created by tying overhand knots snugly around the outer perimeter of rope, the ends woven inside. While I cut the smaller rope into four foot lengths, I cut the thicker into five feet lengths (thus the differences in the sizes of the floggers.
As to the actual use of the floggers, let me just say first that the knots have a lot of power. Because of the intensity they create, these are absolutely not warm-up floggers. Yowch. Though the Masterly one seemed delighted in telling me how polka-dotted I became, the sensations were a little too intense at the beginning. And when the knots wrap up over the top of a shoulder or around the side of a waist/hip region.... well holy crap. It hurts like hell.
The intensity at the beginning made it pretty hard to relax, and I had to concentrate on my breathing and my muscle control (not easy when every inch of you is trying to reflexively react to what is physically going on) just to manage to stay in place. It seemed as though I could feel each individual knot as it landed, which was really unnerving. It took some time for the "leathering" of the skin to take place, at which point the sensations really shifted.
Instead of intense pain from the knots, it became an overall, thuddy and heavy sensation. Ahhh, that was much better. I could feel the tension and jumpiness dissipate as I relaxed into the sensations. It actually became really, really nice after a while, and I started to revel in it, as I usually do with a flogging.
As for aftermath, there was quite a bit of soreness that evening, and some pretty little dotted bruises which bloomed to life in the morning. I was pretty achey and stingy the next day too, which is one of the best things about a flogging in my opinion. As time went on, I had started to crave harder and more serious blows, which I'm guessing would have left some pretty serious marks with those knots, so just a word to the wise on that one; this is not a non-marking play toy.
I think in the future, with a different flogger used for warm-up, this will become a fun and useful toy. The heaviness of the knots, though, mean you need to already have some blood rushing to the skin surface and those lovely endorphins flowing before they land. If you are interested in trying one out, it's worth the cheap investment and little bit of time it takes to create one.
Lately we've been starting to rebuild our toy collection. Part of the rebuilding has included an order from Pink Cherry that we've been reviewing the last few weeks. This week I broke out the wand that my girl has been asking about for years. We've never had one, and at the price we found I couldn't pass it up. Everyone says it's the best vibrator that has ever existed.
So the order finally arrived ( a day early actually, I love actually ordering from Canadian companies ). I left it sitting in the box out in the open for my girl to lust after. She has this thing about wanting to open things right away, her patience is non-existent with some things. I use that knowledge to torture the crap out of her. If she hadn't made a good point about making sure everything had arrived safely I probably would have let it sit for a week or so just to drive her nuts.
Not a flail
As I was opening it she came over to lay with her head in my lap so she could get a view of the toys as well. This didn't prove to be a 'great' idea since while I was working on the twist tie holding the cord of the wand together I lost my grip on the wand portion and ended up swinging it like a flail directly at her head. While this may seem like a good idea to some of you other Sadists, I can say without a doubt that it was not designed with this type of 'play' in mind. It is much too top heavy to get the proper rotation for a second swing. If they shortened the handle it might work well (and it does leave a good sized knot/bruise behind).
After that I put everything away and was planning to leave the wand for last. For one, teasing her and knowing how badly she wanted to try it was a bonus. Second ... there is always that niggling worry in the back of your head that some appliance could possibly replace you - or if not replace, do something you are completely incapable of doing. I'm not afraid to admit that after all the hype I was a bit worried that it might give her orgasms that I couldn't duplicate without it. Logically I understand that I'd be the one using it on her, so I'd still be in control of those orgasms, but at the same time it isn't really 'me'.
I won't say I 'wrestled' with that idea, but it made it easier to delay pulling it out for a real use session. I'd also threatened her that when I finally did pull it out I wasn't going to stop until she really begged me to (or passed out). I think this is doubly scary to her because if she waits too long to beg she gets incoherent so the passed out was more likely. Not that she was turned off by this idea, she might also not have believed me 100% - hard to say. Usually I keep my word about stuff like that.
So - enough background, onto playtime.
I'd had a rough day and just wasn't up to 'sex' since my back wasn't co-operating and I was sick. That doesn't always kill my sex drive itself completely, so often I can get my kicks by torturing her instead. I grabbed a few clothespins and the wand, stretched her out on the bed and started to work on her body. I don't think she saw the wand at first - I wanted to tease her a bit before we got really down to business with the wand.
When I had her squirming around on the bed I pulled it out and turned it on. There was a look that ran over her face that was part fear and part anticipation - I love looks like that. I let her get used to the 'low' setting while I rubbed it over her body, then slid it between her legs. I wasn't sure what to expect, but even with all the hype I wasn't let down. Her eyes rolled back and she almost immediately fell over the edge of an orgasm. Awesome.
Bzzzzzzzz
When she was done I turned it off and gave her a bit of a cool down period before starting up again. I'd say within 30 seconds she was ready to go again. From there I tried varying the intensity (high/low) and pressure (harder/softer). There wasn't really much variation in results. The low setting brought on rapid orgasms, and the high setting was like 'insta-gasm'.
She also gets very sensitive after an orgasm (her clit especially) so leaving the wand on and focusing on her clit with it right after she had just came brought on pain and another orgasm almost immediately. I'm curious to explore and find the point where the pain becomes too much for her and is no longer worth the reward. We'll likely be seeing that in the future, I'll just have to make sure I tie her down first.
True to my word I didn't stop until she begged. I was right though, she was completely incoherent. I only knew she was begging me to stop because 'Master' had turned to 'Daddy' with a slight whine. She admitted afterward that she was begging Daddy to save her from the mean Master - that tickles me.
As a tip for use - don't just leave it sitting in one spot. When I did that the sensation didn't seem to build. Rubbing it both in circles or up and down seemed to do the trick. Also varying the pressure made a difference, the light touch must feel quite different from the firm press.
I've wanted one of these babies for years. It was the Hogtied videos that did it. All those lovely orgasms being forced on beautifully bound and beaten women. There was one in particular that I recall of a French girl, who had been teased for ages, then tied with a wand attached between her legs and flogged. She couldn't stop orgasming during the flogging. Oh, how I ached to be her, right there in the middle of that seeming tsunami of sensation. It looked positively amazing.
We had looked around for quite a while in search of the elusive magic wand. Local stores in Calgary carried it, but with a price that began at $130 or so and only went up from there, we were not interested. No orgasm, no matter how powerful, seemed worth that much. I mean jeeze, it's only a vibe, right? You can get those for ten bucks. Finally we came across a price at Pink Cherry that we could do more than live with - we could accept wholeheartedly. For $44 and change, we could have our own crazy orgasm machine. And with free shipping, too!
When the box arrived, it sat for nearly a whole day unopened. I thought the Masterly type was crazy. I love getting packages in the mail - even if I ordered it, it's still kind of like Christmas. Finally, I convinced him that he should at least open it and make sure everything came undamaged. He agreed. I was in my usual spot with my head in his lap, which turned out to be a mistake. Let me just say this right here: The Hitachi Magic Wand is not meant to be used as a flail to beat your slavegirl about the head. Okay? Seriously. I know his hand slipped, but I had a lump on my head the next day, and it wasn't fun, just extremely startling.
Once unpacked, the wand was put away. We've reviewed other items from our order and from other places, and I was kind of anxious. There was a lot of fuss about this thing, and I'd heard so many good reviews, and I really really wanted those amazing orgasms. Finally, I found enough courage to ask the Masterly one why we hadn't tried it yet. Turned out, there was a bit of worry that I might like it better than him. Seriously, this is a valid concern for men; they can't move that fast. There was even an episode of Love Bites that recently focused on the Hitachi vibrator (called the Maserati in the show, I guess they didn't want to give a free plug!) I totally get it. If the Masterly one wanted to get one of those fake va-jay-jay fleshlight thingies I might wonder, too. Thankfully, he has no interest in those.
For me, it's just a matter of fact that he has two hands. Sometimes they're busy. It's like an attachment or extension of him when it's used. I don't plan on using it myself. Besides, I've always been very happy with our sex life and don't feel like I'm missing anything. I am, however, a sensation junkie, and like exploring different ones. This was just like trying a new flogger or paddle as far as I was concerned.
I finally decided that thinking about it was just going to get me nowhere and what I really needed to do was forget about it for a while. Later that day, after being teased almost to distraction in bed, it was whipped out. Amazing how the universe works, no? Because I had already been teased to the very edge of orgasm for a while, when I felt the cool ball of the head of the wand press against my overheated parts I almost came just from the excited anticipation of it all. Then it was switched on.
I think my eyes may have rolled back in my head. I came almost immediately. It was uncontrollable and intense. I categorize my orgasms into three classes.. no, four. There's the "ruined orgasm", which is when you're right there, stimulation stops, and you get all of the muscle contractions but none of the pleasure. Then there's the mini-orgasm, the normal orgasm, and the OMGIcamesohard orgasm, the last of which is named for what I am generally muttering afterwards. This was one of that last category. Oh. My. God.
The next little bit of time was a blur. I know that I came multiple times, but I can't tell you how many. I do know that I get extremely sensitive right after an orgasm, and that's when the Hitachi Wand becomes a torture device rather than yay-yay-happy-time toy. The vibration is truly intense, and unlike other vibrators I've worked with. The movement within the device seems more controlled, and stronger, without the "jittery" feeling some vibes produce. The low speed is enough to provoke remarkable feelings, and when kicking it onto high speed, you could pretty much guarantee an orgasm within a minute for me. Then again, I've never been a "hard cum" - I'm pretty responsive most of the time, and am not super hard to get over the edge (again, most of the time... there have been moments I had a hard time concentrating or letting go and it took longer, but I think it's that way for everyone now and again). I do think that the extreme intensity of the vibration would overcome just about anything else going on in your head at any time. If you do have a hard time concentrating, this is so incredibly overwhelming that it's difficult to process anything else going on at the moment.
Afterwards, physically, I felt a little strange. I've heard that when left in place for too long, the magic wand can create numbness, but it wasn't exactly numbness that I felt. Instead, I felt incredibly swollen, overheated, soaking wet, and exhausted. Physically, it was as though we'd been going at it for hours and hours, when I knew in reality it hadn't been very long at all (the thing works quick!). I didn't think I could handle another orgasm at that point without turning into a babbling, incoherent idiot (then again, maybe I was already there... it can be hard to tell in that moment). I do know that I might have cried if it had been turned back onto me at that point.
But I can't wait to do it again.
I think that it is a remarkable tool for forced orgasms. During one of the "torture" phases, when I was overly sensitive and the wand remained in place, I came exhaustively hard - another one of those last-category-of-orgasm orgasms - and it almost felt as though it were being ripped through my body instead of my body conducting the waves of pleasure. It was a very out-of-control feeling that I absolutely loved.
I had heard some talk about how loud the vibrator was, including some talk comparing it to a jackhammer on Fetlife (waves and loves to Chremes and rawr for that one...) but I didn't find it extraordinarily loud or anything. I don't think the neighbors would hear it, but if we had a roommate that might be a different story. It wasn't loud enough for me to find it distracting, at least, but then my mind was kind of occupied at the time, so your mileage may vary. If you're living at home with curious parents or something, you might want to play some music to cover up the noise, as well as the moans and groans and screams of pleasure you'll have a hard time controlling under this thing's influence.
I think it was well worth the price, and will see a lot of play in our house. I love that it plugs in instead of using batteries; we seemed to always have the bad luck that whatever toy we wanted to play with had dead batteries in it, which meant interrupting a scene to look for that giant costco pack of batteries that we had trouble finding storage for. Finally, at the back of the pantry or on top of the bathroom cabinet we'd come up with a pack of 40 AAAs and 34 Cs to find we needed four AAs for this particular toy. Ugh. By then we'd both have lost our groove. Since this plugs into the wall, there's no last minute scramble, and even better, there's no dying of vibration as the battery runs out just as you're approaching orgasm. I swear, some of my old toys were sadistic in and of themselves.
This would be a great toy for the solo/single player, but can also have great benefits for playing in pairs. What an incentive for giving a great blow job! I can't wait to try it during a flogging or spanking, too. Overall, a terrific investment and a fabulous add to the toy box.
Another excellent Hogtied production with the wand:
So - new toy this week, some nipple sucker thing with a bulb and plastic tube. It was inventively called the 'nipple bulb'. I was so impressed with the thought that went into this toy that I just had to buy it when I saw it on Pink Cherry. This was part 2 of my order there a few weeks ago.
Sarcasm aside (for now) my girl likes suction toys. Since I haven't had my parts suctioned I take her word that it's really cool. I also enjoy seeing how the suction works on her body, so I guess from my point of view it's kind of cool as well.
Onto the product itself. It isn't very complicated, there is a moderate sized rubber ball on one end, and on the other end a hard plastic tube a couple inches long. The theory is that you squish the rubber bulb, put the plastic thingy over something, then let go and voila, instant suction!
I haven't had 'impressive' luck with toys like this in the past. Maybe I'm just wishing for something more 'hardcore' or my ideal image of what is going to happen doesn't exist.
The first thing I noticed about the toy itself when we opened it was that the aperature was not 'large'. Since my girl has 'large' nipples, I was skeptical that this was 'one size fits all nipples'. I would know, I play with them often enough to judge their size without having to compare directly.
I was also dissappointed to find that they had only shipped me three rubber rings. The package showed four rings. This sad discovery was later rectified when my girl told me I was blind and there was obviously four of them. I believe she slipped an extra one in there from her stash of things I don't know she has.
Onto playtime. I deduced that you slippd the ring on the plastic column (there is a handy indent where it sits) then did the suction thing, then rolled the ring off onto the nipple. Not rocket science I figured it couldn't be that hard.
So I squeeze the bulb as hard as I could and set it over her nipple, then released the bulb. No suction. Hmm. Her nipples were too big for me to actually enclose them fully with the narrow aperature (just what I was afraid of). So, onto plan B. Ram the thing down onto her nipple and squish in her breast to form a seal. Release bulb. The bulb stays squished up - also what I was afraid of, but at least it created a seal.
After some wiggling and creative (read 'deft') finger movement I managed to get it centered on her nipple. Then with some more manipulation of the bulb it suddenly *fwwooopp* sucked her nipple into the tube. She seemed as shocked as I was.
I didn't get the impression that it had distended her nipple at all, it had just finally pulled it up into the tube. There wasn't any way to increase the suction so that was about as good as we were going to get. Ok, so I rolled the rubber ring off the tube and onto her nipple. I think it pinched quite sharply because she jumped and went 'ooohh!!!' and the suction thing that I was holding lost it's grip on her nipple with a slurping sound - which provoked another startled noise at the same time. Note - apparently the rings pinch a bit.
I played with the nipple to see how supple it was - it was quite supple, which meant it wasn't hard, but was still distended, the ring apparently works, cool.
Onto the other nipple - with even less luck. This one is just slightly larger, and that slightly caused problems. I did manage to get some suction going, but it wasn't all the way onto the base. I figured what the heck, and slid the ring on anyway. I was quickly informed that it was purely painful, and not in a fun way. This also led me to discover that taking the damn rings off was difficult, they didn't want to 'roll' and pulling them off her nipple just didn't want to work. I eventually had to just drag it off before she started flailing at me in pain. Note - figure out a better way to remove those before I have to do it again.
So, to get this to work we had to get her less excited and let her nipple soften up a bit. Now if you think pleasing a woman is hard, try 'not' pleasing a woman while at the same time she's waiting for you to put something on that is going to suction her nipple. This process took a while. Eventually I got impatient with her constant arousal and just tried again. With some creative fiddling around we got that ring on as well.
Now at this point they look mildly interesting. I'll consider going through this whole process again and seeing what 'long term' wear is possible. But for short term 'playing' - definately too much work.
At this poing I'm looking at the two extra rings wondering if I could put them on her nipples as well. Instead she reminds me that we used to have suction toys that went in other places. Ah ha! She didn't 'want' to remind me about that, (not that I'd really forgotten) but when I dragged it out of her it sounded like a delightful idea (made even better because she looked worried at the thought of it).
Now not that she 'fights' persay, but I know she didn't want to let me drag off her pants and get down there. Which was kind of half the fun anyway. It didn't take long to get her in the spirit of things though. The results were also worth the effort. It went on much smoother (I didn't try a ring because I was concerned about getting it back off). But I did leave the bulb attached and attempted some 'manuevers' with it (which involved twisting, tugging and stretching). This didn't take nearly as much work and was a lot more fun - definately the 'proper' use for this kind of toy.
Overall - not something I'd throw in my bag for a quick play. Not that the toy itself isn't good (it is) but if I want to use something on her nipples it just wouldn't be my first, or third, choice. As mentioned I'll be exploring the long term usage at a later time to see what possibilities that has (the rings didn't seem 'too' extreme, so I think wearing them under clothing could be fun for both of us). The saving grace is that it's a great quick and easy suction toy for use elsewhere, which will likely be what it is used for more often.
Just like last week, our review focuses this Thursday on an item we purchased from Pink Cherry. I would link you directly to the items, but they appear to have been removed from the site; perhaps they're out of stock for now. If you're looking for them, keep an eye on Pink Cherry's Nipple Toy Page or check out other sites online. I've seen this item in lots of places, so it shouldn't be too difficult to locate. I believe that we spent about $15 Canadian on this item, though your price may vary at different locations. The first thing I thought of was how awesome this would be for people with inverted nipples, because they seem to offer long-term nipple erection. Interesting!
The box contains a rubber ball suction device attached to a glass column, and four small silicone type rubber bands. You slide one of the rings onto the glass column, then depress the suction device before placing it over a nipple, allowing it to suck the nipple up into the tube before sliding the ring down onto the base of the nipple.
A caveat here: This is very size specific. I would recommend checking this out at your local adult toy store for scale before purchase. The glass column itself is a little narrow. It barely, barely worked on my nipples (which I will admit, are probably a bit larger than average, but not too extreme!). If nipples were quite small (such as on a male) the column would likely be quite a bit bigger than necessary.
This size difference wouldn't be such a big deal if the way the item was intended to work wasn't so dependent on size. The rings are roughly the same size as the glass column, and so being slid down onto very small nipples, I can see where they would simply fall off. For someone who is just the right size, on the other hand, this is an interesting toy.
Once upon a time, we had snakebite kit type nipple suckers which I adored. We also had little nipple "nooses" which we had a lot of fun with - particularly being worn under clothing to maintain permanently erect nipples when out in public. This promised a similar type of sensation to these two, hopefully combining the best of both worlds.
Master had a little bit of struggle with the placement of this, again because the sizing was pretty tight. The suction was pretty delicious; not super-strong so it wasn't painful, but strong enough that you couldn't ignore what was going on. There's a sudden snapping shock of sensation when the band is rolled down and onto the nipples. It definitely made me jump. You'll want to steel yourself for that moment; it's not painful like the bite of a clamp, but somehow extremely jarring. With the band in place, the suction bulb can be gently wriggled off. That's just the start of the fun.
The light binding of the nipple isn't painful, but it does ensure that the nipple will stay hard. This is where I think it would come in handy for people with inverted nipples. The band around the base will allow for plenty of nipple stimulation; it's small, and so doesn't block off the nipple in any way. If desired, you could play with the nipple manually or orally or use other toys such as clamps, vibration, anything you would like to stimulate the nipple while it's standing up proudly. The visual is kind of nice too, as it does stand it up high and hard, the suction making it quite tall.
After a little time, I reminded the Masterly type of the "other" place that we often used the snakebite style suckers in the past. Yep, that sensitive little nub between the legs. I was worried with the narrow glass tube that this wouldn't work well, but when it comes down to it, my clit isn't terribly huge. And it does love the suction. Oh my.
The Masterly one got an evil glint in his eye. He loves playing with toys. And suction things, too. It wasn't more than a minute before he was between my legs. There was some initial yelping and protest as I was still a bit sore from some rough activities the night before, but within a minute or two he had me purring like a kitten and squirming with splayed thighs. He knows just how to push my buttons, this one in particular.
At any rate, before long, he had the toy poised over my clit. The suction here was far, far more intense of a sensation than on the nipples. It still wasn't painful, but that may be just because I enjoy the sensations so much. I'm not sure if the silicone ring ever made it onto my clit, as I quickly got so aroused by the tugging and pulling on the bulb itself that I was close to orgasm. I never had that jumpy OMG moment that I did when it slid onto my nipples so I suspect not. It wasn't long before I was exploding, and Master was using his mouth to remove the rings from my nipples... ahhh bliss.
Overall this is a fun, non-severe toy that will work well for even those with zero pain tolerance. I still think the snake bit suckers are a little better on my clit but the rings make this unique. I'm interested in finding out how the rings perform in keeping nipples at full attention long-term, under clothes, out in public, but that'll have to wait for another occasion. I do think they'll perform well, though.
A warning: Be sure that the nipple is completely encased in the glass tube before sliding the band down onto the base of the nipple. With one try, it was at a bad angle, and the band slid onto the base of my nipple on one side and the middle on the other side (at an angle in other words). This did result in some pretty intense discomfort, though it was quickly remedied.
A few weeks ago I put in an order at an online website called Pink Cherry. They are located in Canada and actually had some decent prices. Some of the stuff you see here in the next few weeks came from them as well. They even gave me free shipping on my order (over $75) so that was an added bonus. Those of you in the US, I envy you when it comes to shopping for 'toys', you don't know how good you have it.
The first thing from the order I wanted to try was a new lightweight paddle called the Singapore Stinger III. I was actually disappointed when it arrived, the size on the website was hard to determine and this just wasn't what I was picturing. It's fairly small - actually it's smaller than the palm of my hand (the blade portion) and the handle is tiny and the weirdest shape I've ever seen. Who makes a handle that narrows toward the blade? It also has a wrist strap to prevent 'throwing' it. I laughed at the time, but actually ...
So - to the review. First, like I've said before, because of my hands it makes using some toys difficult. I'm a big man, and I have big hands. This toy was definitely no exception. First I tried gripping the handle fully like a rod. The neck of the handle narrows where it gets close to the blade, so my index finger couldn't even curl tightly around it. The thing is narrower than one of my knuckles and I can't squish my bone together to get a better grip. This caused the thing to be somewhat unstable in my grip, flipping forward and backward a bit. I also found it nearly impossible to deliver a solid smack with it. My knuckles contacted her skin before the paddle did, forcing me to do a 'wrist twist' kind of thing at the end of a snap to make the paddle actually contact her skin first.
I then tried to move my hand down the handle a bit, which meant I was holding it with two fingers and my thumb around the fat portion of the handle. This also did not work, I could manage to smack her with it, but it kept wanting to fly out of my hand since the handle is weirdly rounded on the edges and perfectly flat otherwise.
After that I tried paying my index finger across the back of the handle for added stability while still using two fingers to hold the handle. This seemed to work, but every slap kept pressing my index finger back until after just a few minutes it was too sore to continue. No luck at all.
I moved to holding just the end of the handle between my thumb and forefinger, much like I did with the spatula, and used the motion of my fingers and wrist to just do a rhythmic taptapping. This seemed to actually work well, but again, it was top heavy and my fingers got tired from holding onto it quite quickly.
The only good thing I really have to say about it, is man did you know it was hitting something. I swear you could hear the smacks outside (when I could actually deliver them properly at least). This is probably the worst toy I've ever used, and we both ended up feeling pretty shitty when we were done. Her because I just couldn't control the damn thing and it was painful without being fun, and me because I just couldn't comfortably use it and ended up hurting her for no good reason.
In retrospect if I'd kept to more of a soft tapping without trying to deliver the usual force that I do during a spanking it might have been ok (note: warmups only), but as a full out 'single spanking toy' this just fails.
A few weeks ago, the Masterly type made an order with Pink Cherry. Attention Canadians: this website actually has reasonably priced adult toys. Their bdsm and bondage selection is slim, compared with some US sites, but you don't have to worry about customs and brokerage fees, outrageous shipping or long delays in getting your order. The package arrived exactly when they said it would (about a week after placing the order online) in perfect condition, nice plain packaging, packed well and with everything exactly as we'd ordered it, plus a little thank you packet with some lube samples inside.
One of the items we bought was a little bamboo paddle produced by Pipedream called the Singapore Stinger III, which retails for $11.99 CAD on their website. We've seen it for much less in the US, but adding shipping makes it twice as much. It looked lightweight and simple, and like the kind of thing most people buy as a starter toy, so we thought it would work well for a review. At 11" long and 4" wide it's small enough for even the tiniest female to handle easily. Unfortunately, that means that the Masterly one's hands kind of dwarfed the thing, but that's nothing new.
For me, this did not deliver the kind of spanking I'm generally looking for. I'm not sure if it was the circumstances or the paddle itself, but afterwards I was left feeling cranky and kind of angry instead of reaching that blissful release I usually arrive at somewhere in the middle of impact play. I think that the Masterly one was having trouble with the use of the paddle itself, because the blows seemed to be inconsistent and out of rhythm, which is unusual for him. It might have been me getting an attitude too, because toward the beginning of the spanking there were a couple smacks to my bare calves.
Now, we don't do limits or safe words, but that nearly inspired some creative thinking to figure out how to introduce one in the middle of a session. The backs of my knees and the backs of my calves are so very, very sensitive. They, along with the insides of my elbows, the small of my back, and the back of my neck are some of my most easily arousable erogenous zones. They also, as a general rule, do not respond well to pain. So I started off a bit on the wrong foot, so to speak.
As to the blows itself, there is something about the size and shape of this paddle that just doesn't do it. It's too large to have the stingy, bendy thwacky hit that a wooden spoon or spatula has. It's too small to have the proper thud of impact that a paddle has. It's somewhere in between.
Halfway through the spanking, the kind of warm up I usually get started. If we'd started there, I might have had a different experience, because this is where the paddle seemed most effective. When you can get into a consistent rhythm with blows that are also consistent in speed and force of impact, it's actually pretty nice. I started to relax and enjoy myself. I felt myself warming up, my muscles letting go, and my body getting into it. Unfortunately for me, that period didn't last nearly long enough.
The way this paddle hits is just not that pleasant when it's more than a light whack. Now, I know, not all spankings are meant to be pleasant, but all of you who get thwacked with stuff out there know that there's a difference between a good hurt and a bad hurt, and the harder whacks with this paddle were all bad hurt to me. Too sharp, not enough weight behind the impact, and the vast difference between one blow and another just had me all over the place. I was getting antsy and agitated and I couldn't find a place to concentrate. I found myself digging my fingernails into my hands as hard as I could just to give myself something steady to concentrate on.
Almost an hour later, my hands still hurt (so does my bottom, though) and my palms are still bearing the marks. Good thing I don't do the long acrylics any more or I'm sure I would have drawn blood. Now, I say this because I think a good deal of the responsibility for this lies with the tool itself. I've never had this kind of feeling during a spanking before, and have had many many many over the ten years we've been together. I've never felt this need to inflict pain on myself just to distract myself from what's going on; usually I'm losing myself in the sensation and concentrating only on what's going on. I'm not usually a complainer about toys, but whew... this one really disappointed.
Does it sting? Oh yeah, it lives up to it's name. My rear end is still suffering. And the after-glow part isn't as bad as the spanking itself was. I like that ache that lasts for a long time, and I hope this one does as well, so that I get something out of it. I'm told that the Masterly one got to hear noises out of me he'd never heard before, so there's something unique too. The problem was that they were yells of rage, which generally isn't what we're after. Ironically, even though I wasn't restrained, there wasn't any crawling away, or even trying to cover myself with my hands. Why? The thing was a bastard enough where he meant to hit me with it, I didn't trust moving to improve the situation any. It felt like the tool was out of control in some ways, so I felt like I needed to be in control to compensate. Which of course is another reason I never reached that bliss-space which is so much fun to be in.
Overall, while this might work as a light warm-up toy, or might be okay for very light players who don't use anything other than a very casual, very mild hit with a paddle, it's not the thing to use for a serious spanking. I guess this is one of those situations where you get what you pay for! It's cheap, but I'd rather bring out the wooden spatula any day. This made me desperately miss our old ping-pong paddle of yore.
Out of all the things that make Canada awesome, the price of sex toys makes it less awesome. Though recently I did find a decent online site that is actually in Canada (yay no overpriced shipping!). So - along that line of thought, we were out one day and had decided to look around and see if we could find some kinky new toys. We lost our whole toybox a few years ago and just haven't had the money or patience to rebuild it adequately.
So - to make the story short, we were shopping, marvelling at the insanely overpriced toys (giving shocked expressions to the dildos larger than my arm - WTF are those for anyway?) and trying to find the actual kinky selection of toys aside from the 50 different kinds of bunny vibes. Writing this reminds me that I have to go back to that shop and buy one of the feather ticklers - just for the look on my girl's face - but that is another topic.
Anyway ... while looking we found some not stupidly priced nipple toys, and one of them was this Spartacus Press Clamp set. Since my girl has large breasts and large nipples sometimes we have trouble with toys that have smaller 'gripping' space. These actually looked promising, they have large open areas with adjustable screws, and are more of a clamping design than pinching design. So, they looked interesting, and we picked them up.
Normally I don't prefer the clamps with a chain running between them, unless they're clover clamps. This isn't because of aesthetics or anything, but pure practicality. Sometimes I'm not careful, tug on the chain and 'pop' off they come. Since I like controlling that initial 'freeing' sensation I feel like I miss out at these times and am usually not impressed. I also like to be in control of what's going on - not that I can't work with 'shit happens' but I prefer not to.
So the other night I broke into these while I put on an older movie with some D/s undertones that we'd been planning to watch. I like having her stretch out with her head in my lap while watching movies or TV, it gives me a nice view and also lets me idly play with her hair, breasts and/or nipples whenever I want. So during the playing I twisted these free and started to put them on her. The opened fairly smoothly and went on pretty easily. The thumb screws tightened down, but with her nipples being so big they squeezed out of the 'clamped' area. This didn't seem to bother her, so I don't think it lessened the sensation.
The visual with the bra was just a side benefit
I got the clamps snugged up, though the thumb screws became obdurate when I tried to actually tighten them down. I have pretty good finger strength but I just couldn't get the 'squeeze' I really wanted out of them. Once I had them on and gave the chain a bit of a tug to see how it made her jump I went to get the camera. On my way back I noticed her playing with them, she grabbed the chain and decided to give it a tug - it was sexy for a minute and I was getting ready to take a picture, then they just popped right off. Not so secure. She gave me a surprised 'O' look and I gave her a frustrated 'don't mess with my mental image' look.
Readjusting the clamps I told her not to tug on them so hard and went back for pictures. I got a few decent shots, then settled in for the long haul. I started the movie to get my timer started. Safety is important when working with new equipment, she has good endurance, but I don't want to do permanent damage so I always pay close attention to both her nipples coloring and how long I've had the clamps on.
I played with the clamps, I had them on in such a way that when I pulled on the chain they would twist her nipples instead of just pulling on them. Since the clamps are large and square this was easily accomplished. Using the chain (gently) I pulled it horizontally across her body (she is laying down) and kept the vertical tugging to a minimum (for fear of pulling them off).
Over time her nipples got more and more sensitive - as usual with this sort of toy. The tips were easily available for further torture and gentle touching. I also found I could get a good reaction by taking one of them in my fingers and turning it like a steering wheel, which twisted the nipple rather severely.
I did discover that the more I played, the more quickly the screws loosened. This is the problem I've had repeatedly with adjustable toys that use thumb screws, they just don't stay securely tightened. It seemed like every minute or so I would have to keep snugging them up. At first I thought that her nipples were getting squeezed enough for me to tighten them further, but that wasn't it. I tightened them as hard as I could, and I watched while I played with them, it was subtle, but the screw was actually backing out from the pressure of her nipple trying to re-expand. Not great when what you want is to make her nipples ache tomorrow. The constant tightening was distracting - I think after a while she was surprised that I could keep making them tighter - she didn't know what was going on.
Overall - about average for adjustable screw clamps. For anyone with large nipples these are fantastic, and if you're looking for more of a gentle 'slow build' sensation these are perfect. If you can't give them enough attention to keep them tightened you might be disappointed with the results. We'll be using them again, because I never use something only once, but with other options these wouldn't be my first choice.
The Masterly type and I were out to catch a movie, and of course before a movie, shopping is a great way to kill time. Especially when there's an adult boutique down the street from the movie theatre.
I'd like to take a moment of my time to tell you Americans that you are very lucky in the adult toy marketplace arena. My girlfriends and I used to shop at the big discount stores up in Wisconsin when I lived in Chicago, and the prices were phenomenal. Even the prices at the little shops in the city beat Canadian prices by a country mile. I never appreciated then how nice it was to be able to have a huge toy collection. Which is part of why losing our whole collection in our fire was such a horrible thing. But I digress...
As we wandered about and I pointedly avoided the wide varieties of feathers on sticks (one of these days I will explain my utter horror at being tickled. It is the worst thing EVAH), we caught sight of these little babies, hanging on the wall among the small array of fetish items.
We had quite a collection of nipple toys in the past, but had never tried clamps quite like this before. We were both fascinated by the way they worked, as opposed to our old favourites of tweezer clamps and clover clamps. I have rather large nipples, so sometimes clamps are hard to use effectively, but these had a nice size to them, so we went ahead and picked them up on impulse.
I really like the feel of cold metal on my skin. It's scary and goose bump inducing and threatening somehow. So, I like clamps with metal chains. Master... not so much. He finds chains to be a bit more of a pain than a help, though pulling on the chains is an entertainment he seems to enjoy. I also really like that the whole body of the clamp is metal. It gives a sharpness to clamps that rubber cushioned tips soften almost too much sometimes.
At first, I found these clamps to be pretty mild. I'm not sure how tightly they were adjusted, but while it was a nice mild pressure, there wasn't an initial "bite" of pain. I immediately grabbed the chain and pulled upward. Oh. They came right off. Either they weren't very tight, or just were very slippery without rubber grips. Either way, it made Master look both amused and annoyed with me. I think he probably was sorry he hadn't restrained my hands.
Once they were readjusted, we went back to what we were doing. Namely, I remained positioned across the leather ottoman in front of him, and he resumed the movie (the 1974 version of Swept Away). For endurance play, these work well, as my body seemed to adjust to the level of compression easily enough, leaving a throb, but not a huge amount of pain.
Every so often, Master would tighten them a bit, increasing the pressure, giving more pain, making me squirm more and more. He likes having a toy at his disposal during movies and the like, so he spent lots of time just idly toying with the clamps and my clamped nipples. The compression made them extremely sensitive, and even light brushes of his fingertips over the tips of them was very intense. Tugging was really nice with these clamps, I think because of the configuration of the compression and where the chains are located on the clamps. Whatever the physics of it, I could feel it quite deeply, and it shot both pleasure and pain through my body. Often it feels like a pull on a chain is only pulling on the skin of the nipples - particularly with "toothy" clamps, but this definitely lifted the full breast, with a completely different set of sensations when the chains were straight up (while on my back) or in other directions.
It took a bit of time, but it wasn't long before we were reaching my endurance limit. This is something I think I'd like to work on, cause I was feeling a little bit like a wimp as I whined and squirmed around. Being as he can read me so easily, it was only a minute or two after I had the thought of "Oh holy crap I hope these come off soon" before they were being removed. Because the compression is lifted gradually by the thumbscrew instead of suddenly, there is no OMG moment when they first come off. I actually kind of missed that. The sick feeling you get in your stomach when you really, really want the clamps to come off but are terrified of that shock of pain when the blood returns probably won't happen next time, because I know it's a gradual thing. Perhaps if they were yanked off all at once you'd still get that... something to experiment with in the future!
Overall, I really like these clamps, and because of their slightly milder nature, they are great for endurance play. These would be fun to use during a more prolonged scene, combined with flogging or other impact play, because they are easier to wear longer-term. I think it was a great purchase and look forward to more playtime involving them.
It's amazing what you can find when you get in the mindset of looking for something kinky that you're going to use to beat your s-type with. Actually I can't claim the credit for this one though - she found it, and showed it to me, but I think when she smacked herself with it to test the sting it kind of scared her because the look on her face was priceless. She immediately tried to put it back - of course I couldn't let that one slide, and it ended up in the cart. What did we find?
A lightweight flat sided wooden spatula. Now I know it doesn't look like much, but I liked the feel of it and flicking it around with my wrist I could get good movement with only a bit of effort. Cool. I gave myself a few good whacks on the thigh with it to see how it worked out - through clothing it wasn't so bad, decently thuddy, but still a little stingy.
I knew it scared her a bit (and she likes that) so I've been dropping hints that we'd get to a deadline (review Thursday) and see how the spatula actually worked out. The look on her face tided me over until the day actually came to get down to business.
I had her bend over the ottoman with her bottom in the air, perfect position. I let her keep her pants and underwear on to get started with. I wanted to get an idea of how much damage it did through clothing before I started using it on her bare skin. It isn't that I can't be sadistic, its that I like to know what kind of pain shes going through so I know how to use it to best advantage.
I started in with a good rythm, mostly using my wrist, keeping up a steady but light tapping. There was still a slightly sharp sound, but it 'felt' more thuddy on my end, like there was a heavy impact. I tried a few harder smacks and the noise sure amped up, though she gave me the impression that even then it wasn't 'painful' in a bad way. Now I never got in to like a full arm stroke, just a bit more flick to the wrist.
After a while when she was still wiggling and pushing her ass up at me I decided to get a bit more personal. I pulled down her pants and underwear to see where we were at. Her rear was a soft red - so even through clothing I think eventually I could give her a nice red glow. I let her feel the wood on her bare skin for a moment before getting back in a rythm. Again I was delicate at first and slowly added to the crack.
To me it felt sharper, the impact less thuddy and more bouncy. Which usually means it's stinging the skin and not causing a deeper pain. I noticed pretty quickly that hitting the same spot a few times in a row caused a sharper pain for her. When we discussed it later she said the pain built very quickly, so hitting the same point repeatedly quickly became almost unbearable.
About half way through I had an idea to turn the spatula around and use the handle end. It is about an inch and a half wide and flat like the spatula end. Holding the wide end between my thumb and forefinger I used just the motion of my fingers moving back and forth to flick the handle end. It turned into a rapid staccato that I actually had a very fine control of the force over. This also gave the benefit of being able to hit straight across her bottom instead of having to focus on one spot or one cheek with the flat spatula end.
I worked my way down her thighs as well with this end. From the way she was wiggling I don't think this was particularly painful, but gave her more sensation rather than sting. Though there were a few points that made her jump, I think they were just particularly painful.
I moved back to the wide end to finish the job, and kept up until she was sobbing and trying to protect herself with her feet. I usually let her wiggle and struggle around a bit, since I find it entertaining, but her feet started getting in the way of my stroke. I also enjoy a bit of bastinado so I gave them the handle end and they quickly discovered they couldn't hide eachother at the same time and retreated elsewhere.
After the play session she didn't want to get up, and even pulling up her clothing brought a small hiss - job well done.
Later after she'd had time to enjoy sitting around both on my knee and on the couch with her freshly worked over bottom I had her stretch out across the bed and worked on the other end (her breasts).
I was more delicate on them, they're more sensitive and I unfortunately don't have anything to secure her arms with any longer. It's on my list of priority objects to purchase.
Here the spatula actually worked better than most other toys I've tried. The surface area was large enough to get the impact across, but not too large that I couldn't control where the sting was being placed. I could also avoid her nipples unless I was specifically after them (she really jumps when they're included in impact play, so this worked well).
I also tried the handle end again here, and the rapid tapping on her nipples sent her squirming all over the bed - not much more you can ask for from that. At one point I had her holding her breasts up for me while I rapped at her nipples - it was hot and something I will definately do again.
Overall - Definately a bargain toy, I think it was $5 at Canadian Tire and I'm sure we'll get a lot of enjoyment out of it. Likely less as a paddle alternative and more as a breast and nipple torture device. The light weight lends itself perfectly to prolonged use, in fact she was tired out long before I was. Some days after a spanking my wrist and arm are a bit sore, but I didn't feel any aftereffects at all this time.
The Masterly one and I were wandering through Canadian Tire and stopped in the kitchen goods aisle to pick up a new can opener. Hanging along the racks were buckets of wooden kitchen implements, including a wooden spatula, which looked fairly similar to a small-ish wooden paddle.
I picked it up, twirled it in my fingers and swished it in the air. He grinned.
I slapped it against my palm. Wow, did it sting. I'm not sure exactly what my face looked like, but his was suddenly full of that dark hunger that speaks of evil things he wants to do to me. I hurriedly slid the spatula back into it's home.
He looked disappointed. I felt bad. I plucked out the spatula again. He grinned. I cowered. I handed it to him, and he tucked it into the cart.
I got scared.
After our somewhat failed experiment with the leather gloves, I knew more spanking implements were in order. Spanking is a favourite in our house. Really, I don't know why it isn't a favourite in every house...
Last night I was ordered onto my knees on the ottoman. Face down, on my elbows with my back arched and my bottom presented, I waited. It didn't take long.
Through my pants and panties, the spanking started out bare-handed, but soon progressed to the wooden spatula. There was definitely more of a sting there than there was with his hand, a sharper edge, but the blows were lightweight and didn't start out painfully. It was more of an interesting, sharp sensation.
After a time, the pants and panties were pulled down. What is it about starting out clothed that makes the removal part way through a spanking so much more humbling than starting out naked? I suppose when you start out unclothed you have a chance to get your "I feel sexy" mood going, whereas when you're already feeling vulnerable and maybe a little scared it's a bit humiliating and scary.
My bottom was stinging, but not too badly. Now, the blows began against bare skin, and it was immediately different. I absolutely loved the series of quick, lighter blows that started, heating one area before moving on. I later found out these were made with the handle, not the "head" of the spatula, which is about the dimensions of a wood ruler. Oh love love love... it heated up my rear, the blows building on each other pretty quickly. It made me squirmy and overheated. I had tears in my eyes and was sniffling, but wasn't in severe pain.
No, that started when he flipped the spatula around and started using the "head" of it to make hard, more widely spaced blows. Holy crap.
This was less thuddy than a paddle and had a really severe sting to it. The blows build on one another pretty quickly this way, so that when he went back and hit an area a second time too quickly it was severely painful. It didn't take him overly long before I was sobbing desperately and had dropped from my knees primarily to try to use my feet to shield my bottom. If you don't know how this works, it involves bending your knees to get your feet right up there in the way. As a reward, my feet started getting beaten, at which point I was so busy trying to protect my feet that I almost forgot about my bottom. Not quite, though, as it got a bit more attention.
In the aftermath, my bottom was overheated, and having my pants and panties pulled back up made my skin scream with the sensation of it. Oh, how it stung, and ached, and was hot. I wanted to remain on my belly on the ottoman, but was ordered onto Master's lap. I really really didn't want to sit on my bottom just then and did my best to convince him that I should get to stay on the ottoman. When he started whacking with the spatula again, I became much more obedient (ow-ow-ow-ow-ow). His lap wasn't fun. That concentrated sitting on just one leg? Yeah, it made the heat and the ache so much worse.
The ache was pretty severe through bedtime, at which point I was laid across the bed on my back, head hanging off the edge so that Master could use his new spanking toy on my breasts while he was properly serviced. Wow.
I am sure he was using lighter blows here, because usually my instinct to cover up my breasts is really strong, as much as I like the evil things he does to me, and it was less urgent here. Of course, having a distraction like keeping him satisfied helped too. Most paddles are too big, they make too much of an impact on my breasts and just get me upset rather than worked up. Not so with this item. While the blows were stingy, and usually I prefer thuddy impact play, they were just right. I wanted to cry when he rubbed it over me after the hits, because it felt incredibly cool against my hot flesh. The smacks on my nipples also made me want to cry, in a slightly different way, but the build-up of sensation was remarkable. I was almost overwhelmed, and when he had me hold up my breasts in offering, it was a moment of pure control; so difficult to present myself for torment, and to bear the sensations that made me want to both run away and be fucked until demolished.
Today, the ache in my bottom is minimal, enough there to remind me what happened, make me slightly sensitive and uncomfortable, but not so much as to make life difficult. In my breasts, it's mostly the same... aching and hungry for more sensation. This toy is definitely a keeper. I suspect Master thinks so, too.
For a while my girl has been asking me to try chopstick nipple toys on her. I'm not sure when or why it started, but it has been tickling in the back of my brain for a while. Until the other day when she brought it up by showing me some hot pictures and I finally agreed to give it a shot. We're a bit short on toys at the moment and anything relatively inexpensive that we can play with is a big bonus. She was more anxious than I had thought, since that night I was given a pair of chopstick clamps preconfigured and ready to be used. Well - I wasn't 'given' them, they were quickly placed on my nightstand before she quickly scurried away on her way to bed. When I asked what they were she blushed and said something like 'new toys' - which was very cute, as usual.
I took a look at them to get an idea of how to use the effectively. My fingers are dexterous, but are thick and wide so manipulating delicate objects sometimes takes me some practice. These seemed pretty straight forward. Pry open, place over nipple, release. We have two different kinds of chopsticks in the house, so I got one of each types. One type is a bit of a rougher and more squared wood, the others are perfectly smooth and round. I played with the elastics wrapped around the ends until I thought they gave the right amount of pressure for a first attempt.
So a short time later after some fun play I snagged the pair of them, her nipples were at attention and it was a good chance to see how these actually worked. Now I'm used to having a bit of a learning curb with new items, but I really had some trouble with these. Mostly I had a hard time pulling them far enough apart to slip easily over her nipple. She has quite large nipples, and while I could wedge my thumb into the chopsticks it wasn't quite enough. Eventually I had to get my thumb and forefinger between the chopsticks and pinch her nipple, then kind of drag it through. Now, that was interesting, and it worked - she didn't seem to mind - but it took a while and I felt clumsy.
For the second one I decided to try a different approach. I took the elastic off one end so they were easier to spread apart, then clamped them over her nipple. I started trying to wrap the elastic around the ends again, but they kept twisting out of my grip and pinching her nipple a little more sharply than I had intended. Which made her jump around and usually made me lose the grip on her nipple. When I eventually got the elastic tight enough to hold it was impossible for me to go that extra twist or two and make it acutally tight. So this whole idea was a bust.
Properly clamped nipple
I ended up taking them back off and redoing the elastics, then jamming my thumbs into them until they were wide enough and getting them properly over her nipple. I think after some more practice things would go smoother, though I don't think I'd try it if I had to use one had to steady her breast, like if she was in an upright position, hanging face down or laying down are probably optimal. The secret is to get a thumb or finger to the right and left of where the nipple will be and wedge the center open far enough that it slides down easily, then removing your thumbs without letting the chopsticks ride up.
Now for the fun part - I've never had clamps this wide on her nipples, so the first idea I had was to spin them like clock hands (no not quick like winding something). So I took one end and pushed it down, maybe to 6 O'clock (Originally I had the ends horizontal at 3 and 9). I could see the nipple twisting inside of them, so they seemed to be working as intended. Twisting more elicited more reaction, probably something like a pinch and twist, but I could keep twisting and wasn't limited by the rotation of my wrist - bonus. A see-sawing motion didn't seem to produce much effect, I started to pull on them, but they weren't tight enough not to slip. So I pushed the elastics more toward the center and they held on quite well. I'm not sure how much change in pressure there was to her, but it seemed noticeable on my end that they were more firmly attached. I also found I could squeeze them even tighter by adding pressure with my fingers on either side of her nipple for a bit of extra tightness.
With the chopsticks being so large almost any movement made them bounce a bit, which usually created more movement - another bonus. It's always nice when toys do some of the work, especially since I only have two hands. I didn't leave them on for super long, since this was our first play session with them, but they seemed to have pretty much the same effect that any other type of compression clamp does.
Overall - Decent idea, once they were on they worked well. I had trouble getting them properly placed, but I assume that is just neophytism and with practice it wouldn't be an issue - the technique isn't difficult. It's always nice to find a pervertable that isn't super expensive, chopsticks are quite cheap and easy to find. I would recommend sticking to laquered good quality chopsticks, both because the elastics will slide on them (I didn't have trouble in that area) and because getting splinters in my fingers would suck. I've seen pictures of those takeout chopsticks that are connected at one end used, so it is possible - completely up to personal preference.
Chopsticks make kind of an amazing pervertable. I'd heard about chopstick clamps a long time ago, but it's something we've never tried. To be honest, before our house fire, we relied primarily on store bought items rather than pervertables. We had quite a sizable toy chest, but when everything burned... everything burned. It's pricey to rebuild a toy collection, and since I'm not earning the kind of money that I once did, perverting ordinary objects into BDSM toys has become a new fascination.
Quarter shown for scale
In order to create chopstick clamps, all you need is four chopsticks, and four elastics. Lay out the chopsticks with one small end to each larger end, as the photo shows. I would highly recommend using coated hair elastics rather than rubber bands for this, as they are easier to slide along the length of the chopstick.
You can tighten the pressure by the number of times you wrap the elastic around the chopsticks, making them infinitely adjustable, depending on the elastic and the chopsticks. You can also adjust the feel of the compression by sliding the bands closer to the center, and hair elastics slide very smoothly, to create a slowly building pressure instead of jerky, sudden tugging sensations. Of course, some sadistic types might prefer this kind of sensation, so experiment and see what you prefer.
So, what do they feel like?
Well, to a certain extent, clamps are clamps. The rounded nature of chopsticks do create a slightly different pressure than other clamping devices we've used. We tried two different types that we had in the house, and both were lacquered. I would not recommend using unfinished, throwaway chopsticks for this by the by, because you definitely don't want to get splinters in your nipples. Head to Chinatown, where you can pick up a finished set of eight for a song. They are also widely available on the Internet.
One of the sets we used was a more rounded type, while the other was slightly more squared (though not to a sharp-edged degree. The rounded set seemed to have more pressure to them, though that could have been just the snugness of the rubber bands, since the chopsticks were also slightly larger. The difference isn't noticeable just looking at them; it took holding them up to one another to discern that the circumference was just slightly different.
What makes these interesting and fun, is that when they're played with, they create some really amazing and unique sensations. Rolling them back and forth, for example, creates an amazing sensation similar to rolling the nipple with fingers, but with a much sharper edge to the sensation. Tugging also creates somewhat of a different pressure than most other nipple clamps. It reminded me of a set of round, pressure clamps we had before the fire (sorry, I can't remember the name!) with flat plates that came together, but even there the sensation was still somewhat variable, because with the chopsticks you can tug on only one side or press them into the breast tissue, which also creates a different feel.
These are definitely a fun, unique pervertable which will be staying in our toy box permanently now!
Well the other day I decided that a good flogging was in order - I'm sure you know how that goes, sometimes you are just in the mood for it. Since these new rope floggers are all we currently have it was time to break them in.
